tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1798244787749073383.post3583728001817435395..comments2024-01-17T22:35:01.546-08:00Comments on musings in mayhem: a poemcath chttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07121005007284461511noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1798244787749073383.post-56763909055421027022009-12-31T21:47:51.612-08:002009-12-31T21:47:51.612-08:00sorry, i saw your next comment after the thank you...sorry, i saw your next comment after the thank you - <br /><br />i'm sorry you had to deal with that. sometimes it's hard for our parents to see things from our perspective. they forget we are not bit players in their lives but that our lives are rich on their own and part of that is our stories with them and how the stories affect us, rather than them. <br /><br />i hope that when these conversations come up with my boys, esp k, because he was more aware when we divorced and it affected him a lot, that i can remember his perspective is a very strong one. thank you for reminding me of that. <br /><br />recently something came up from that time and he was very emotional about what he never mentioned back then. i finally had to stop him and say, i was unaware of that at the time. if i had known, of course i would have done all i could for him to be taken care of. but i couldn't have known without him mentioning it. he looked taken aback that i couldn't read his mind when he was 7, and now he knows...if something is on his mind, he has to tell me if he wants me to do something about it.<br /><br />i hope you didn't hurt too badly after your father's note.cath chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07121005007284461511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1798244787749073383.post-20947520821253452952009-12-31T21:36:09.500-08:002009-12-31T21:36:09.500-08:00thank you, kelly.thank you, kelly.cath chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07121005007284461511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1798244787749073383.post-45963225831743092342009-12-31T18:13:36.711-08:002009-12-31T18:13:36.711-08:00made me think of truly laying yourself open, which...made me think of truly laying yourself open, which reminded me of the note i got from my father this afternoon. he read my blog about 10 years of lessons and was hurt. he doesn't normally read my blog unless i ask him to and I told him that post was there. he said all that he could say was that i was a very powerful writer who obviously didn't remember the good times that happened when he and my mom were married. that stung. he's never been able to talk about the difficult things and when i write about them, about my personal feelings regarding the death of my mother, not about him, and he turns it into something about him. par for the course. oh well. at least i can talk about it. :-)Kelly Warrenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05877538170235721680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1798244787749073383.post-77696917309887777182009-12-31T18:07:27.624-08:002009-12-31T18:07:27.624-08:00gorgeous. :-)gorgeous. :-)Kelly Warrenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05877538170235721680noreply@blogger.com